Talking from experience right here: long-lasting marriage does not an exciting sex life make. Quite contrary, in fact—I’m six years as well as 2 young ones in, and I also think the last time we saw my husband’s penis was long ago when Gwyn and Chris remained combined. Dating is amazing, a crazy, stunning blur of crisp dresses and fancy dinners; candlelit lovemaking; manicures; waxes; blowouts; everything impromptu and perfect and brand new. Not so much post–“I do.” Trade into the sleek and shiny for the dull and threadbare: You’ve stepped along the aisle supply in supply, the joint taxation return is filed, in addition to mystery and miracle of courtship is replaced by the wholly mundane of every day life.
Prioritize Alone Time“Plan one night that is curfew-free 6 to 8 days,” says psychotherapist Esther Perel. (more…)